1.You’ve Dated Around
We’re
not saying you have to pull a Jen Aniston and go through tons of dudes
before you find The One. But having a few solid LTRs under your belt
does help you figure out what qualities are important to you and what
makes a relationship work—so you truly appreciate your future hubs when
you find him.
2.You Share Similar Goals
Let’s
say he wants to do the suburbia thing stat, while you’d love to travel
the globe for a few years. If you get hitched, one of you will end up
disappointed… . Settle down with a man you’re more or less on the same
page with: you both want to live in the city, you both want (or don’t
want) kids, etc.
3.You Don’t Want to Change Him
Look,
you don’t have to adore everything about your guy. But you do have to
make peace with the fact that he’s always going to sack out on the couch
and be glued to ESPN on Sunday afternoons, and he’ll never stop
slurping the milk in his cereal no matter how many times you say it
annoys you. You can’t change a man (but you can tweak him), and trying
to will make you frustrated…not to mention bitchier.
4.Your Connection Is Tight Out of Bed, Too
When
you first started seeing each other, staying between the sheets all
weekend was pretty legit. But for your bond to be strong enough for the
long haul, you need more than a physical connection—meaning you need to
know that you can have just as much fun together with your clothes on as
you do when they’re off.
5.You’re Not Living Out a Bridal Fantasy
Sure,
it seems like every time you sign onto Facebook, another pal has posted
pics of herself in a stunning white gown. Sigh. But remember: Getting
hitched isn’t about the ceremony—it’s about what happens afteryour
big day. You’d better be thinking about your future life with him, not
just your future bridal party photos (and how pretty they’ll look in
that fab silver frame).
6.You Both Try to Resolve Fights
After
you have a disagreement, it may seem easiest to apologize and move
on—you know, do the whole “pretend it never happened” thing and go
forward. But sweeping conflicts under the rug only sets you up for a
bigger blow-outs down the road, because the issues will likely resurface
if left unresolved. If you can’t talk things out rationally, you’re not
ready.
7.Your Friends and Family Dig Him
Of
course, it’s your life, so you have the final say. Thing is, choosing a
partner is a big deal, and your inner circle’s input does mean
something. It’s fine if a few family members or friends aren’t huge fans
of you two as a couple; you can’t please ‘em all. But if everyone seems to think you’re a poor match, ask them why. They might be onto something.Source:Cosmopolitan
